New year New Men

#1. "Fellas in 2011 fellas stop doggin women and women stop calling every man a liar and a cheater and women stop trying to talk to niggas who's taken let's practice being committed my grandparents been married for 50th years I'm tryin to do that"

#2. "ONLY resolution is to be a better Father!"

Yesterday I saw a lot of statuses by men, that just made me proud. So many people wish for wealth an self, everyday. Yet they're not good people, or the best they could be. People will use an manipulate others, for the mere sake of being bored. Every thing's all fun and games with our generation, but look who's paying for our bad habits. We are, along w/ everything we touch!

The reason why it's hard to find loving, honest, successful, young black relationships. The reasons why your four yr old acts like they're fourteen. The reason grown adults are going back an fourth degrading one another over the internet. All of these things my parents wasn't having. My mother would say women don't act like that. My father would say "You are a child, this doesn't concern you" ...an I played. I was allowed to be a kid. That term "This is grown folks business" doesn't exist anymore.

I think all men know how to love. Yet for some reason, they choose not to. They rather use people and hurt others. If every thing's about you, what exactly are you contributing. Is that your character? If you had no money, would your heart be full. Would the folks around you want to stay? Are you a good person? Anybodies "situation" can change in an instance. You can be rich and well off tomorrow. But if you fell off, who would catch you amidst the sorrow? You can't buy love or genuine loyalty.

What Caliber of Man are You?

Are you a Gentlemen or a Jerk?!

Everyday, I see and meet men of a different kind. An I silently grade them. We ALL do it! Your manners, etiquette and language all play a part. Your age puts you in a certain bracket. How each individual excels, solely depends on self growth.

For instance, how one may engage while dinning out. Openly discussing money is tacky. You either have it or you don't. There should be no surprises once the meals have been eaten. Over the table exchange of money is crass. Loud, abrasive, arrogant demeanor's are a sign of insecurity and immaturity. Why are you rude to the waiter? <-Unnecessary! Borderline unacceptable. A man with poor dinning etiquette, shows me he's not accustomed to fine dinning. What I consider fast food.. he considers top notch.

A man's stride, speaks volumes. If he makes sure he's always between you an the road, (while walking) he's a gentleman. Little acts of chivalry, his mother has embed. Along with holding the door an so forth. Never, rudely off setting one another. A man should never walk AHEAD of a women. We're Together! Where are you going? Gentlemen, walk beside their counterparts! There's no pets or children to drag along here. We're adults!

Tones mean everything. Don't base your voice at me. Did my father join this discussion in place of you? In what instance, do you feel barking at a woman will get you respected. You can get your message across in any calm tone. Especially while we're out. Only children throw tantrums. You KNOW better! If you feel the need to belittle, manipulate, degrade any woman to be heard... you need to be ALONE! Go seek guidance within yourself, before you seek anything in another.

But it's also fair to say that, men act accordingly in some cases. How can a man treat you like a woman, when you don't know what is required of a man. You allow men to treat you like anything. Displacing your self worth, instills a standard. Spoken or not.

There are another set of standards that apply in relationships... but I'll leave that for tomorrow!

You can get her, but can you keep her?

OK luvs! After my Miami trip, I've been loafing. But I'll get back on the saddle, to avoid any further sass. There's a lot of topics that will be discussed, but today I have one question.

You can get her, but can you keep her?

I'm not sure if people fully grasp the concept, of a real relationship. Grasping, dissecting and letting it settle is the hard part. Once it's processed... quite possibly the best thing since sliced bread. But lets be real. No one's going to heaven, if they're still tricking in hell. Your smile, may of gotten her attention but you deceitful reputation was well earned. An now it is on to the next. At what age do you desire more for yourself, when pursuing others? When do you yearn for substance or the willingness to put someone before you? Some people mean well, but are poor at executing their intentions. Like anything else it takes work. No one is perfect.

A lot of men get in a situation and think its a job. A person is not a job, chore and or hobby. There are no breaks, time outs or hiatus. Someone endures all that, that is you. Your pains, faults, highs and lows. Some men, can hear a women talk for hours and not listen. You can be in a relationship, and feel completely alone. Some men are so nonchalant, that its collapses the very thing they built. Wake up! It's your situation. When a women suggests something for you to do... the term "I don't want to" is another nail on your coffin. All those games, places an things shes done for the sake of you. Just to see you smile and feel as if your companion was willing to go the mile with YOU.. is shot! It's not about you. An can you do it without complaining?

Say she wants to go to the theater, and non of her friends share her passion for the arts. A lot of men would say "Hell No, take someone else". Why should she? Your partner is your friend above anything. Some dudes push you into another man, because he's lazy. And is too arrogant to catch wind, of whats happening. If she comes to you, why push her away. When those lines of communication end, so does your relationship. If you never want to do what she wants. Leaving her to always compromise on the behalf of you. She'll eventually resent you. Women get tired of talking when they feel unheard. Yes you love me but you don't listen. I must not matter that much. Actions are sincerely louder. You can say I love you till your blue. But if your constantly messing up, it don't matter. Your love isn't valid.

If she always has to call someone else, when she wants to do something or go somewhere she wants.... Or seek refuge in others for a smile. What is your purpose? There are a million of dudes, offering sex without the headache. A lot of women do a lot of things without complaining, just to see him smile. That right there, can make her day. Men don't get an award for saying "I Love You" or finally "Committing". Step outside yourself an step your love up.

Why date Peter Pan when I can have a Man?

It seems like, women in the DMV are over and done with it. They'll invest in a man, but if your stuck in lala land... NEXT! What's shocking is the fact, these men are pissed. Highly distraught and upset. It's kinda of sad and cute. Somewhat laughable, actually. You had the nerve, to waste a perfectly good woman's time. For however many years, playing around. Painfully making it clear that, it was about you and your needs.

No responsibility, path or set focus in regards to your woman. The mere thought, tensing and frightening your every being. Instead, you'd rather partake in Every DMV event. As if, you were paid to attend. Being joined at the hip with your friends. Somehow, forming the "Babysitters club" amongst men. Which ironically enough, is like channeling the lost boys of Peter Pan. Running around recklessly, battling restraint. You pushed her away! Who doesn't know how to hold on to the person they love??? If she acted that way, would you stay? Would she be Out of control? Ungrateful? Thee' worst? Would you then man whore for ten years, explaining how she ruined it for others?

I just don't understand how one can ultimately ruin their situation, and feel like their owed anything. If you made it perfectly clear you weren't ready for marriage, cheated and gagged at the thought of kids. What is it your concern, as to whom and when she marry? You don't want a women to force or change you. So why be pissed, when she trades for someone new. You didn't want to be that dude. An regardless of how you "REALLY" felt, that's what you presented an made evident. Oops! My apologies. You wanted her to wait six more years, until you felt like it. No! that's not how it works.
When you live for self, you end up with and by yourself. Understand you are selfish. An yes, they're are men who will tell you and understand what and who they are. For those in denial... go play somewhere. An be less destructive, with someone else. I can respect a man, who is just happy that another supplies all that they couldn't. It shows growth, understanding, and maturity. When the person you loved, just wants you to be happy. In spite of themselves. That "If I Can't Have You, No One Can" mentality is elementary.

DMV Produces Ungrateful Men

When will people learn today's actions affect tomorrows decisions?

I still don't know why men are so archaic and trivial with their process of thinking. It's baffling in 2010. What separates us from animals is the ability to think an process thoughts. So why are we still ass backwards in life? I don't know. When a grown man is incapable of controlling their sexual desire, its beyond unsettling and disheartening but some what pathetic. Women are hit on countless times, day after day. Offered gifts and luxuries beyond our dreams, though yet we decline.

I've never seen such a self imposed, self absorbed, self professed set of men. It's ridiculous. With no desire to commit, account and attain any emotional substance or purpose. Bearing no consequence or guilt, they'll manipulate most. Knowing their worth, is far unfortunate than one could understand. They'll have sex with any, discarding many at a whim. Feelings are a word, if not often a joke. An if you speak up, your castrated out as an omen. Your not meant to have an opinion or expected to have self worth in the DMV without being considered an hassle. Due to the lack of women without any self motivation, worth or purpose. All in all its been a common consensus, that the men of the DMV expect all and give nothing. They don't know how to treat women nor care. An its disgusting! That's why, a lot of women have quit and become gay.

We're tired of going that extra mile that you don't go. I take off work when you never do. If your hurt I'm their to aid you when your there when there's nothing else foreseeing it. My money's your money, when your money's Ciroc money. I make your bed, so the next chick can lay in it. Is exactly why soo many women have gone bad. Why should I treat you good when you can't, better yet, produce the same treatment. Do we really deserve the shit we're being handed???

All I know is, if you had a good woman, an she don't go the distance no more. It's probably because you treated her bad and she doesn't give a damn no more. You ruined it! Just hope you didn't ruin her...

Keep in mind that this is a BLOG! Not a Diary! I know tons of women an their stories throughout the DMV! Along with the very men that make our city go round. Not saying ALL men, but this is what most women encounter.

Bitter Boy Blues

Boooo Fck'n Who!

You can't get the Boo you choose
Cuz she loves that OTHER Dude!
Soo sing those Bitter Boy Blues....

In the past few months, me an my girlfriends ran into a peculiar strand of men in the DMV. They were ambitious, charming, outgoing and aggressive. Most of you would say "Hey! I need a man like that". An that's what they thought at first, until time begun to "WEED" them out. Overly aggressive and pushy in all instances. There's a difference for fighting for what you want and harassing. It's fine to be out going but only as much as both are willing to be. Becoming Forceful, Badgering, or placing Guilt in order to get the one you want is ridiculous. Some men aren't comfortable with walking away knowing they weren't able to attain that person.

It may not have nothing to do with that man, in reasons why she didn't want him. She could of possibly been overwhelmed by life. Enjoying your company doesn't equated to seeking a relationship. She could of just very well left a relationship. Wherein she's mostly likely still in love with that person. Whether in denial about going back or proceeding forward, its "HER" call. No matter how good y'all conversation was, or how great you proclaim you'll treat her. Love trumps any forms of "Like" .....PERIOD! "I'm in Like with you", doesn't compare to "I'm in Love with him!"

Some men can self destruct, with no help but there own. Depending on the female and her turn offs! I don't care how "Fly" you think you are, you may not be her type. Just because you had what it takes to get my attention, doesn't mean you had what it took to keep it. Reasons vary according to the individuals, but "NO-ONES" exempt. Get OVER YOURSELF!!! It's not the end of the world if you don't get the girl. Stop stomping around like someone stole your bike. She was never yours to begin with. Women fight over men constantly, due to the ratio of men/women. Were costumed to regrouping and moving forward everyday, on a broken heart. So why must it be unheard of from men.

Things that it is "NOT OK" when you can't get the girl you want...
1) Talk shit about the Man she choose.
2) Snitch on things he may do out of spite.
{You can tell me but your still a HATER lol}
3) Become uncomfortably angry with that Woman
4) Curse and disrespect that woman because you can't have her

Just GROW-UP! On To The Next One....

100 BLACK MEN of Hope!

Friday November 6th 2009

So many people complain about our young Black Men an the things they lack. Yet in the DMV we have a specific caliber developing at an alarming rate, that's quite extraordinaire. Formed upon improving the everyday hypocrisy of "If you knew better do better" Kevin Hallums, initiated a challenge. Once was just an everyday venting session on "Twitter" vastly spread, to what we hope would become an annual event. One Hundred young Black Men joining to make a change at Hope Community Charter School. A little idea which snowballed into something miraculous.

For more information contact RealMangoJuice.com

Food being donated by Food Island Flavors of Laurel Maryland.

Wale
Donating 20 Signed Autographed Shirts

Kevin Durrant
Donating Autographed Basketball

Darren Harper
Donating Skateboard Decks

"We are not limiting volunteers due to their race nor gender, but our goal is to attain 100 African-American males in order to demonstrate that positive, Black role-models do exist for this predominantly African-American school."

Men can feel "Used" too! Who knew?

Karma is a Bitch! An this time it Carries a......

Penis!

I was talking to an old college acquaintance of mine, when I can across something. Men can feel sexually used like women. An yes, their quite very aware. You will seriously mess around an get your feelings hurt, if your judgments cloudy. Men are very cut throat an calculated in the things they do. So going against the current in times, you find, you lose. They rarely make apologies for anything they do, especially if they have their mind made up about you. Even if they're dead wrong its like beating a dead horse. NO ONE CARES.....

Which leads to my discovery at hand. I was talking to my friend Ron, about how he spent his birthday. Where in, he asked me about my whereabouts and doings. He assumed I was somehow bunned up in the corner somewhere. I assured him it was far from that case, though many have tried this restless summer. He was unaware how nutty these boys have become in 09'. I don't respond well to aggressive tactics and immature behavior. Which then lead to us comparing stories.

Currently overseas playing professional basketball, he's accustomed to jet-lag. An due to his sexual appetite, lets just say he's familiar to most things than others. Soon then validating the expression "For every Psycho Man theirs a Nutty Ass Jawn." We then began discussing elements in which it takes to settle down. An to be honest it just takes someone who's willing to endure. He was honest in stating that he can't date a women who has kids. I said at times most people, women an males think like that, though it's selfish. He then said...

"I believe if you have to be with someone forever you have to be selfish and know what you want! don't settle and be unhappy! life is to short for that." ~Ron T.

He went on blatantly state how women are so self destructive and delusional. In their logic of thinking. We were discussing mixed signals, and how people can get lost in the process. He agreed with me to some extent but then added a good one. He said "Fav to be honest some most women don't even like me an aren't attracted to me, they just heard about my sex. Its after, that they realize I'm cool as hell an end up falling for me. But initially you just wanted sex, so why would I want anything more? I have a lot to offer someone but, I ain't going for that." Hymm soo true! That's for women who lie to themselves saying they can handle "just sex" when you really can't. If you treat a man like a TOY, don't be mad when you get PLAYED! Oh no boo boo, don't try an fall in love now. That option is not granted to you. Just get what you came for an be on your way.....

Men Go Hard or Go Home!

OK! So these are just my thoughts an what the DMV has shown me as of lately.

All Cards on DECK!

In 09' the MEN are going IN! I've been feeling all so indecisive. I'm honestly at a lost because I'm not use to these focused cool ass dudes who aren't about the bullshit. It's refreshing an hilarious because I'm still tryna figure if it's a age thing or a maturity thing. Or maybe it just the ugly duckling thing. Niggas who weren't use attention growing up, are still running around with their heads cut off now. As opposed to the Men who always looked good, an basically have "Been there done That." It's not hard to be faithful or better yet just commit. They've seen every type of women an just want someone to connect with. They know what they want and they have no problem with letting you know.

At first, I thought it was just one case of a person just knowing what he wants. I tried to establish the reasons for his sureness. Maybe it was his age, or just his drive. More focussed men don't need useless money hungry groupies. They just want someone they can trust an be open with. But then I ran across another Man who just knew what he wanted. An then another, which basically lead me to believe it's a new era. They're worldly, outgoing, smart, and Yes Attractive! Maybe they've seen the nonsense early, an refuse to be caught up by some one night stand thats KEEPING! Or broads that's press to go out all week an would talk to you. Yet soon as ol boy come by 6'3 with money to spend, she's open. An she making you follow guidelines, while my boys tell me he had her going! Ha They just reach the point of realness real quick!

An it's crazy cause they looking at me like "Why you not somebody's baby?" They feel like they stumble on gold...like Wtf? Ok, I'm about to shut it down. But now there's a problem. If more niggas were still dumb, then you could win. But more Men are wisening up. They're playing for keeps, and going all in. An I'm actually impressed, an not much for words on this. Black Men are impressing me lately....Ya'll Got IT!

Ain't Nuffin Like a GOOD DUDE!

There has to be something said about a

GOOD MAN!

I love men... But I cherish and adore a good dude. There's just NOTHING like them. It's beyond me sometimes. I use to say "Athletes, Celebrities all and all don't matter. I'd take a dude with a "Bear Card" (MSU Campus Id) anytime!" I don't want no part time man, or relationship based on money. If your a hard working, loyal dude, I'm a rock with you. An that's soo sincere.

When a man is down, there's is nothing like a good woman that holds him up. That's lifts his spirit and his heart. Who believes in him when at times he don't. But when you give all your heart and energy to lifting him up, where is he to replenish your heart and spirit? Some men take, take, take... An they don't know how to treat a women, nor do they care to learn. A mans pride, is a delicate thing. But when as a man do you learn to be supportive? An humble yourself to build and encourage your women. We're not your home boys! I don't need you to talk to me like my boss. I rather you not talk at all. Watch your tone and be attentive.

I know some good men that just want to see you smile. An you can tell them your day, an actually feel like they're listening and care. They may crack jokes, suggest new ways of handling a situation. Or you can just go to them, and forget about the trivial things. Being genuine is never a task.

MAN LAW #4 Don't Snitch or Get WHIPPED!!!

The two Craziest fights in the last two weeks... MM HH!!!

Ct had sex with another girl while his new single ex was in the house, an they SNITCHED on his dumbass an he Snapped!

Men who Front!!!

"There's no Future in Fronting!!!" ~Positive K

So I'm out with my brother from another mother Bengy the other day, grabbing a quick bite. Update session in process, like usual. So we began to skim over the last six years, among other things that day. It was hilarious! It started by me making comments about his wedding, an him wondering how we got to there. No, he's not anywhere close, but he did say maybe in three years. So we hit the time line on people we dated, an how things went about. Soo many memories, in such a short time span. He caught me of guard with somethings, I wasn't even aware about. You know we all have an understanding of our own situations. But when someone else see the exact same thing, it's refreshing and comical to say the least.

So we get into this discussion about dudes, an how they front for no reason. He didn't understand, as well as I. We was talking about a time I dated someone for about ten months, but they played it so cool. It was when me an Bengy first met, a long time back. The dude really liked me but, he was insecure that I was just going to trade him in for someone better. That was never the case but, that is what he assumed I guess. Bengy told me how one time they were riding out to meet these girls an I called. I asked my boy where he was, an he said seven/eleven. Obviously lying, but I didn't know. Then I allegedly asked him to come by after. He than made Bengy turn the car around an said I gotta go back. Mind you, they were about to pay the tolls, an Bengy didn't want to go alone. He was like are you serious??? My boy than replies yes! It was early on, an from then Bengy knew my boy was fronting. But he said, he neva put him on blast when he tried to play it cool, but he always knew the deal.

I already knew the deal, but it didn't matter to me. I just stopped talking to him because, I can't have more heart than any man I date. I don't fake cuz there's no future in fronting. Bengy was like, that boy couldn't handle a girl like you honestly. He needed someone he could control or who was insecure. I'm social, sought after an I'm chill. So if your always wondering about the next guy, odds is you won't last. If you like someone and care for them, why dumb it down? Cuz what happens is when y'all are over, everyone comes after her. They don't respect what y'all had cuz you knocked it to begin with. They figure well, y'all were just talking...It wasn't serious...So now you can become my girl...I won't waste your time! You trying to play games in turn is playing yaself!!!

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"I want my Baby back" :Fabulous
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