Is Character at an all time low in 2011?

Looks like I'll have to retire from my brake, to get back to y'all. I know. How rude of me.
A friend of mine prompt this post, through a series of tweets today.

"Do you think people change? Honestly, do you?"

"I dont believe people change, I just think people reveal who they really are."
-@Twotonedc

What do you think? I believe that people can change. It's called growth. Development. You can become a better you, if you choose. Or maybe I have a faith in others, that need not exist. I guess, I'm an optimist. In regards to human nature. Anything else, is slightly depressing. I would than, have to be willing to admit some people are hopeless. That some character cores, are just that dark. Especially when coming from a man. (Not saying that his tweets were in no direct regards to other men) I would figure they're more aware of the bullshit levels. So if they lack hope.. sheeesh!

If people just "reveal who they are" ..who are you really? A liar. Un-loyal. A cheater. Immature. Spiteful. Selfish. Without an inkling of hope, to be better? Is that what it is in 2011? Yikes! Y'all must want me to be celibate. Or quit black men. (I kid.. I kid.. lol) I just choose to believe in the spirit of people. Maybe more than they do themselves. A person can mess up. Hell.. be a walking series, of let downs. But there's always a way up. There has to be. Unless they just quit on themselves. Growth can be minimal, or continuously elusive. I rather that, than the belief it doesn't even factor in.

To think that your conscience, stops you from being an awful person. Is to admit that there's a lot of awful people. I don't think I'm ready to admit, that there's a lot of fucked up individuals in this world. Than there isn't.

"We tend to have reasons not to do something, because we dont want to become who we are supposed to be." -@Twotonedc

Who are you supposed to be? A fucked up person?!?! Are you that person? When it's easier for you to lack character, heart, consideration. It's easier to be manipulative, shady and selfish. Proud of that "I don't give a damn" attitude. That's who you are? Are people really proud to be that person? I can't believe that. That would be soo depressing. Fucking scary, even. Walls would be built, too tall to climb. Kill yourself trying. I refuse to give up on the spirit of people. I rather take that statement, an think the opposite. Maybe people purposely mess up, in order to dodge being great. Because once you're there, you have something to lose. Leaving you now vulnerable. It's easier to cop out an run, than stand tall and feel. Put yourself on the line. You're probably a great man or person, if you'd allow yourself to be.

But hey.. if I'm wrong..? Than it'll be a hell of a lot easier, to filter through people. Forget three strikes. Mess up once?! It's a WRAP! Deuces. You are who you are, and you can't be trusted.

Dear Faviola

Dear Faviola,

It's officially 2011 babe, I LOVE YOU! You just turned 26 and you're in a great place. 2010 was something else! Haiti was a mess, and your friends got you through it. You boarded more planes than a little bit. Who knew Los Angeles would be your second home? You're definitely not the same woman who entered that year, as who left it. A little less greener, and a lot more serious about your wants. Realizing your love for someone never left you complacent. You've never backed down from what you've believed in.

That year was the year of no tolerance. If someone didn't bring joy into your world, you cut them off. Dead weight will create a dead mind-state and, that goes for negative energy as well. Learning what folks to keep at a distance was a blessing. You never was into trends or ignorance. Some of the bullshit people perpetuated was not entertaining nor cute. An I adore you for remaining you. The basic b*tch is taken!

Love was and will continue to be enlightening! The person you give your heart to can tend to disappoint you at times. How you deal with it, can factor in so many things. I'm proud that you never let emotions get the worst of you. You told him how you felt, instead of every social network. Cause at the end of the day, he's all that who matters. Don't ever change that about you.

Some Skeletons Should Be Kept!

Now there's nothing wrong with knowing everything there is to know about your mate.

But is there such a thing as...
TOO MUCH?!?!

Favorite colors, snacks, songs, and family members are fine, but where do we draw the line? Is it better to meet someone AFTER they mentally mature or BEFORE?!?!! So many people say before, but so many people are idiots as well. So many people can't create nor partake, in an actual adult relationship to save their lives. An it's not like there's a bunch of examples running around, to coach us through. We know what Jump offs, Cuddy buddies, Flings, Baby Mamas and Rebounds are. But not Happy, HEALTHY, LOVING Relationships with Longevity are. Every one's an option, because every one's temporary.

I know men adore women who stand beside them through their trials and growth. But given how inconsiderate, manipulative and deceitful most men are in their youth...

would you have stood by
YOU?

Enduring, can empower as well as, destruct the very core in which you're built upon. The dating scene can get Messy. Engaging with multiple parties at a time is problematic. Especially, when sex is involved! Social networks are a ticking time bomb as well. Everyone says you must forgive and forget, but it's not realistic. Your heart may forgive, but your mind remembers. An you say.. "This is me! I'm the same me, that I was a year ago. I loved with all my heart then, as I do now. This is the same lips, eyes and soul that they saw then. So what makes them want to change for me now?" If desiring others, is a drug. Whose to say, they can stay clean. Everyone has withdrawals.

Sometimes it can lead a person to feel like "I love you but I wish I never saw that side of you ..I hurt just knowing that side exists". That side lingers around my thoughts, and I doubt it'll ever leave. Wherein starting fresh can leave you showcasing, your ideal you. Bidding farewell to all the roads less traveled. Everyone says it's ones choice. Of course, at any moment you could leave. But love doesn't quit. It's about accepting the past, an being grateful that they've lasted. Cuz everyone, ain't worth fighting for.

If you love someone... it should be in-spite of their faults! It's because you see something in them. Maybe much more than they see in themselves... Maybe it's passion! Maybe it's hope! Maybe it's just the tingly feeling, that you grab onto, refusing to let go. Whatever it is.. it's OK! Some of the best things, aren't easily handed to us, but it's worth the struggle.