Is It STILL About Color?

The other day, this film was brought to my attention by an old classmate. Ten minutes in, I was already over it. It's soo weird watching somethings. It's as if, I live in an other America. I swear. Yet the one thing I picked up, throughout my ten minutes were..

"Hurt people, HURT PEOPLE"

What mother would really pass that on to their child? "Lawd, thank g-d she's light skinned" ..Really?! lol Please, don't spread and past down ignorance. I thought that slave mentality was dead w/ Halle, Stacey Dash, Oprah, Michelle Obama etc. People would rather they'd sit in a tub of bleach, than love themselves. Wow! I have no words for that. How can someone else love you, if you don't even LIKE your damn self?!?! I can't even sympathize.

I've been brown, all my life. When summer comes, I get darker. I don't hide from the sun, or only go out at night. I've got red undertones, and I'm proud. Black cherry cinnamon walking. I was even more appalled, by the men on the video. Black men, aren't all like that. I've been fortunate, to feel loved, cherished, and appreciated by all the black men I've met. Since I was a little girl, I was made to feel pretty. Like all girls should. I was never made to feel slighted or inferior. A cycle is a cycle, because people keep it going. Get a new focus!

Dark Girls: Preview from Bradinn French on Vimeo.

CHEAP Black Women is a Sad Epidemic!

I've done a survey among servers in the DMV. The one thing that is consistent is, the well earned stereotype of Black Women.

CHEAP, Needy and RUDE!!!

I don't care if it's offensive, because it's TRUE! I've seen it, over and over. Been somewhat, mortified at times. It's gross to see how some women act, and wonder why people stereotype them. I wouldn't want to serve your ignorant cheap ass either. It shows, how much you lack. It's sad! At a certain age, ones expected to conduct themselves in a certain manner that ceases to exists nowadays.

If you have NO money, why dine out? Why go to someones job, get smart with them, run them around and not pay them? A restaurant is NOT YOUR HOUSE! You can sit where you want. You can have and drink what you like, at your house. If you have to ask "How much is soda?" ..go to Popeye's. If you have to get separate checks w/ your friends, ALL the time. Invest in new ones. How do you not know what you ordered? Is the tax too expensive? All these acts are annoying and tacky! It's embarrassing! WHY? An it's Usually Black Women 17-35yrs of age.

A restaurant is NOT a comedy show. Why are you laughing SO loud? Borderline screaming. It's all about you huh? No one else can eat or talk, and actually enjoy their conversation. An by all means, I'm not advising people to eat in silence. But.. I've heard bytches SQUEAL! Literally groups of girls, scream in laughter. That made EVERYONE, in the restaurant, be like WTF? ...Really?!?!

An I don't know what it is about women and other women, but STOP! Why do you instantly have an attitude with women servers, more so than men? Is there a chromosome, that makes you nicer to dick? I know multiple servers at restaurants, that request men customers because of this. Every five seconds you NEED something else. YOU ARE NOT THE ONLY TABLE THAT SERVER HAS!!! An the more your indecisive, the more issues they'll be. You should Never leave less than $5 at any restaurant for ANY tip! If you've spent $100 dollars on food, why are you tipping $6. Have you never been out to eat, without a man paying your way or something? It's baffling!

Or the women who nit pick at EVERY single, little thing and ask for a manager. I cringe, when I see that happen. Obnoxious!

She don't Love you, She Love the Perception

Nowadays, love is just a concept of emotions manufactured by Hallmark! People don't know what the hell they're doing. An sadly enough, women settle. I have seen soo many unhappy women "make it work" just to get by. The men they want, are probably promiscuous, stubborn, emotionless bachelors. So they give up, and move on. Settle down with man, who provides the yellow brick road.

But at what cost. You've latched onto the rebound. They've made you their world. Your the best thing they've ever had, yet your still sad. You didn't want them. You wanted more, but the money throws a fog in your face. You can't see through the haze, until it's too late. An that's why so many women, are cheating with no discretion. He buys you anything you want, an makes sure your his world. Yet in your head, your that other mans girl.

You should never use someones heart, as a comfort zone. Being scared of love, is the fastest way to hurt everyone else while "Protecting" yourself. You end up treating everyone, the way you couldn't fathom being treated. An the older you get, the messier it becomes. Needing a compassionate companion, and or "Friend" is one thing. But enlisting in a half hearted relationship is another. Just because he's SAFE! So you mentally, if not physically cheat, with the one who gives you chills.


The only women who disgust me more, are the ones who solely do it for money. They have a good man who goes above and beyond, but ehhh... it's not enough. They always want that other dude, who oozes that perception of Money, Status and ohhh MONEY! It'll be the quietest, well dressed, proper woman, sending messages for him to come through. Hoping there's a connection, that would give her room to leave her situation. I don't respect those women. Your just a well dressed trick.

What's in your Trick Bag!

What's too much too fast?
Do you know when to show your sexual wild cards?

A lot of women are revved up to please the new boo, and show him all what she can do. Food and sex are often the things they try to master. Cook the best meals while supplying the best sex. The quickest way to a man's heart is through his stomach. While the best way to keep him attached to your heart is, through his little head. Blame the media, blame the standards, and blame whomever. But there is a "TURN-OFF" button. I myself thought that giving your all sexually, was a good thing. Yet it's been brought to my attention that most women do it in a sloppy manner. There is a sexual tempo that most dudes abide by.

If your just an after hours smut, than by all means carry on. This doesn't apply to you! But after conversing with a handful of gentlemen last night. It's been brought to my attention that women aren't selective as they should be. In regards to, their trick bag. Men love and seek to enjoy sex to the fullest... BUT!!!! Take your time, before you scare them away. Sometimes they may want to feel as if it maybe y'all "FIRST" time trying such position. If you go on a first date and cap if off by swallowing the park...! Trust and believe your gonna get a blank stare. You don't know him. Lets be honest. So the question arises, "Does she do this with everyone?" If so, then she's just about to be at the top of my sex call list. I'm not taking her and her day-care of a mouth serious.

The same thing applies for back door access. If your just shoving it in without the "TALK" like it's standard?!?! You may get your feelings hurt. That's not the ABC's of sex. More like the X,Y area. Be selective and learn your tempo.

Skinny? Angry? Why soo Obsessed?

There's a lot of women who are dying to be slim. Slim women dying to be bones. An unless a man is gay, why would he be attracted to a 12yr old BOY?!?! Where this obsession come from. I find it difficult to blame t.v unless, your watching something different from me. Television is at the forefront of "Thick is Sexy". Even with cartoons! All the beautiful women, have "Curves". Betty Boop was the icon, of the cartoon temptress. Marilyn Monroe is thee' Epitome, of the feminine mystique. Von Deta Tease, Britney "Corn-fed" Spears, Beyonce etc... Are all the ideals of sexy. So why do some women want to be skins and bones.

I'm a slim women myself, with NO desire to diet or lose any type of weight. I love my body, and I'm comfortable with ME! Now if eating that rocky road can add five more pounds to my tush, I'd be perfect. An not no-one, could tell me nothing! *smirk* I thought it was just obvious to pretty much assume...

*Pretty Face
*Nice Breast
*Flat Stomach
*Phat Butt
*Nice Legs
Equals Goddess!
No matter it being 125lbs - 175lbs as long as your well proportioned!

Nothing disgusts me more, then catty insecure women checking for the next one. Go get you some business, that's not my own. Everyone is NOT the same, so stop trying to be. I love, Love, LOVE it when I see a bigger women, CONFIDENT in their skin. Men are attracted to a woman's state of mind! If your wack, it won't matter how you look soaking wet. If your pretty then, YOUR PRETTY! If you love yourself, someone will compete with you, to love YOU! Cause no-one should love you more than yourself. Please don't blame it on the weight. You constantly doubting yourself, is what makes him doubt you. A "GUT & Being Sloppy" is unattractive period. An overweight people, aren't the only ones with them. Have you ever seen a skinny girl with "Back fat"??? Everyone has flaws!

I'm not insecure about mines. I love seeing confident, out going women, with a positive state of mind. When women are constantly nagging about other women. It's because, they're unhappy with themselves! If you could relate, you wouldn't hate! When what I do effects your mood... an I don't even know you??? Check yourself! An go seek help!

Black Girl Chile Please

Angry Black Woman

Black girl, why you soo LOUD?!?!

There's a lot of black women who don't know their boundaries. It is alright to be educated, strong willed, and successful by all means. But don't get it twisted, PLEASE check yourself! Some black women, are so aggressive in everything they do. That their whole demeanor, comes off hostile. An this isn't something new. That very issue, is why a lot of women are single. In turn, pushing black men to date outside their race. Not that there's anything wrong it. To each, is own.

But speaking on the behalf of men, from what I've seen. Some, if not a lot of you sisters, are flat out bold beyond belief and disrespectful. Many people are mad at Chris Brown, with good reason. Yet, some women walk that line constantly. Just because, you know its wrong for a man to hit you. Doesn't mean you should test him, until he do. What is wrong with you? You wouldn't dare run off at the mouth to another woman like that. So where did that heart come from? Please stop taking advantage. Because, if a grown man barked and demeaned you. The way I see most women come off, he would be the utter worst. It shouldn't take you almost getting "Mollywhooped" to know your position. Other cultures don't talk to their men that way. If they do, its in the confines of their home. Not the mall ,or over a friends house. It's a lack or respect, and I don't know where the disconnect came from. There's a time and place for everything.

An it's far worse, when I see a woman come off to a man she don't even know, that way. It's like what gives you the gull? the audacity? Why are you so mad? It could be a simple function, where a man is speaking on something and a women interjects. Say your piece but be respectful, and move on. Some women badger, loud and over-talk a man to be heard. There's not need for that. If your point has a purpose, it will be heard. I don't care if your sitting next to my man, an he says the sky is red. You can tell him its blue. But, it's not your place to yell and scream till he understands. Or we will have an issue! Don't reprimand my man. Cause, then I'm going to really piss you off. I'll say the sky is red bitch. Thee End! An trust, you and I will not match wits! I'll inform him on any matters he isn't willing to understand... ok? lmao

Some women don't know what battles to fight or how to talk. Everything isn't a yelling contest. An if you don't know that man, why are you so quick to disrespect him. You shouldn't do what you preach isn't right.