Wednesday, June 9, 2010

What Caliber of Man are You?

Are you a Gentlemen or a Jerk?!

Everyday, I see and meet men of a different kind. An I silently grade them. We ALL do it! Your manners, etiquette and language all play a part. Your age puts you in a certain bracket. How each individual excels, solely depends on self growth.

For instance, how one may engage while dinning out. Openly discussing money is tacky. You either have it or you don't. There should be no surprises once the meals have been eaten. Over the table exchange of money is crass. Loud, abrasive, arrogant demeanor's are a sign of insecurity and immaturity. Why are you rude to the waiter? <-Unnecessary! Borderline unacceptable. A man with poor dinning etiquette, shows me he's not accustomed to fine dinning. What I consider fast food.. he considers top notch.

A man's stride, speaks volumes. If he makes sure he's always between you an the road, (while walking) he's a gentleman. Little acts of chivalry, his mother has embed. Along with holding the door an so forth. Never, rudely off setting one another. A man should never walk AHEAD of a women. We're Together! Where are you going? Gentlemen, walk beside their counterparts! There's no pets or children to drag along here. We're adults!

Tones mean everything. Don't base your voice at me. Did my father join this discussion in place of you? In what instance, do you feel barking at a woman will get you respected. You can get your message across in any calm tone. Especially while we're out. Only children throw tantrums. You KNOW better! If you feel the need to belittle, manipulate, degrade any woman to be heard... you need to be ALONE! Go seek guidance within yourself, before you seek anything in another.

But it's also fair to say that, men act accordingly in some cases. How can a man treat you like a woman, when you don't know what is required of a man. You allow men to treat you like anything. Displacing your self worth, instills a standard. Spoken or not.

There are another set of standards that apply in relationships... but I'll leave that for tomorrow!

1 comment:

Asha said...

Yesssss this is all too true! Sad...but true. I have dealt with the good, the bad, and the ugly when it comes to men. Dining out, tone, even appearance and articulation are signs of a winner... or a LOSER. And most of all, it's the little things that count. Does he surprise you with a kiss when you least expect it? Does he hold you at night? Go head Fav, speak truth girl lol. I read this and was like BAOW! She's on it, time to get me a real man!

*muah, asha