Sunday, January 10, 2010

DMV Produces Ungrateful Men


When will people learn today's actions affect tomorrows decisions?

I still don't know why men are so archaic and trivial with their process of thinking. It's baffling in 2010. What separates us from animals is the ability to think an process thoughts. So why are we still ass backwards in life? I don't know. When a grown man is incapable of controlling their sexual desire, its beyond unsettling and disheartening but some what pathetic. Women are hit on countless times, day after day. Offered gifts and luxuries beyond our dreams, though yet we decline.

I've never seen such a self imposed, self absorbed, self professed set of men. It's ridiculous. With no desire to commit, account and attain any emotional substance or purpose. Bearing no consequence or guilt, they'll manipulate most. Knowing their worth, is far unfortunate than one could understand. They'll have sex with any, discarding many at a whim. Feelings are a word, if not often a joke. An if you speak up, your castrated out as an omen. Your not meant to have an opinion or expected to have self worth in the DMV without being considered an hassle. Due to the lack of women without any self motivation, worth or purpose. All in all its been a common consensus, that the men of the DMV expect all and give nothing. They don't know how to treat women nor care. An its disgusting! That's why, a lot of women have quit and become gay.

We're tired of going that extra mile that you don't go. I take off work when you never do. If your hurt I'm their to aid you when your there when there's nothing else foreseeing it. My money's your money, when your money's Ciroc money. I make your bed, so the next chick can lay in it. Is exactly why soo many women have gone bad. Why should I treat you good when you can't, better yet, produce the same treatment. Do we really deserve the shit we're being handed???

All I know is, if you had a good woman, an she don't go the distance no more. It's probably because you treated her bad and she doesn't give a damn no more. You ruined it! Just hope you didn't ruin her...

Keep in mind that this is a BLOG! Not a Diary! I know tons of women an their stories throughout the DMV! Along with the very men that make our city go round. Not saying ALL men, but this is what most women encounter.

11 comments:

Anonymous said...

WHOA! Peace Ms.Lady you make some great points but I feel like this only have the story very articulate and well written but when I see you Ill respond. HA! Peace Ma.Fav -Truth of Up And Up!

DMV Dude said...

I think the women who agree with this post should learn to not commit to a person before you learn the core values of a person. Often time we are attracted to the smoke and mirrors (read: "swag") but fail to really go beyond that as far as assessing a person. It sounds like you present countless opportunities for a man to "redeem" himself in your article and you're always let down. The question then is, who is making who stay? You can't be mad when people treat you the way you allow them too. Just bounce and move to the next instead of validating this behavior and having dudes just consider your actions "bitchy" as opposed to "dang she left me because I didn't have my shit together." Just a thought... Good luck!

tChristopher said...

Saw this post in a ReTweet on twitter. I really have to disagree here. I'm a DMV Man and I don't think I am ungrateful. However, I will concur that a lot of DMV guys... well, guys everywhere, kind of suck. I know this because I deal with all the stigmata they create when trying to talk to a DMV woman.

Usually though, when I listen to the stories I find that the women create the monsters that hurt them. There are a group of women who have a strong tendency to encourage foolishness in men. You want that guy who is flashing money (because you think that shows success). You want to do what ever it takes to make it work.

Man, to be real honest if women would stop putting up with crap guys would stop doing crap. Why are you working things out with a guy who cheated on you? In fact, if you suspect he's cheating and he doesn't want to adjust his behavior to reduce the suspicion then YOU are the fool for staying with him. Red flags fly all the time. Guys test the limits of your endurance. If you allow him to do crap he will.

Start cutting dude's off for foolishness and you will see really quickly that the type of guy you chase is the type that will cheat. Change your values, look for guys that have more to offer than glamor and the appearance of success.

Anonymous said...

well Mr. Dmv dude...a women stays b cuz a women can not jus get rid of her feelings at the drop of a dime...when we are with someone we are with and have real feelings...sorry we can't say that about men b cuz as soon as shit gets shaky yall are out of there...that is a sign that you never cared as much as the female did in the first place...is it honestly our fault that we put our all into someone instead of jus half assing like yall "men" do?

{Ms. P} said...

Wow.

I don't "go bad". I just "go AWAY"...

I'm 31. I'm not a fan of wasting time. MISS me with the BS, please & thank you. If you don't want me, the feeling is mutual. After awhile, you can't blame "dude". Odds are, he's probably too busy chasing after some skirt that doesn't want him, either. Its the way of the world...

I only bait my hook for fish I can catch. Being ignored & unappreciated will teach you that. Just direct your attention to someone that's worthy (AND willing to accept) & you'll be fine.

Good blog.

iCan said...

considering that this was written in "drunken galore" I will wait for the 'sober' edition before I comment lol.

but I will quote from the blog selection:

"My money is your money. Your money is CIROC money.."

Yes ladies and gentlemen, please drink responsibly. CIROC Ultra Premium Vodka.

DMV dude said...

@anonymous #2: you pose a
valid argument. I didn't say leave when stuff
gets tough, that's childish/non-commital but DO look inside yourself and realize "yo I'm getting burned." Work through problems when the desire is mutual but don't kid yourself. Ms. P has it right.

And think about this: outside
of relationships we usually react to pain correctly. If you burn your hand on an iron are you going to keep doing it? Are you gonna coax it to cool down? Doubt it.

Just a thought...

Faviola said...

Lmao Shut Ian! Tipsy or not I still have the same view.. & I appreciate everyone who took the time to read an share my world.

The Pyramid said...

I think everyone on this has some truthful experiences to draw from because I hear this story very often amongst black women. Here's my lil perspective: This is a result of neglecting a bigger problem, to save time I won't fully explain each domino but it is a reality that we must look at to understand the situation we are facing. Lack of economy (we haven't established any businesses); We spend our money outside our community; which leads to no jobs; crime; which leads to a fucked up system towards black men (more time in prison for selling drugs than murder); niguhs get arrested for surviving; no men to raise their children; lack of parental guidance broken homes; lack of men/lack of boys being raised to be men; bunch of women with no counterparts; more of a selection of women for the men that are not locked up(the same men that have not been raised correctly from no man or no real man); a rise in promiscuity because people get loney; rise in disease (from both prison, drug use, unsafe sex); lack of respect and trust based on experiences; (don't hate on me but...) a lot of gay men dating each other and making a small selection even smaller; a "No holds barred" media that desperately promotes fear and chaos that we rely on for information. All of these things along with other things are the reason why we are in this downward spiral. Along with that I think some women are not giving good dudes a shot, I'm disease free, educated, loyal, raised correctly, got all my teeth, groomed, cultured, all that good shit, and I do get overlooked sometimes for someone who really spends more time acting the role instead of focusing on developing their own character. I still don't blame anybody else cause I'm still on the conveyor belt but damn some of ya'll be making me wonder if your attracted to drama more than anything else. Good men in the DMV are around, there are even some bad men that are even tailor fitted for your needs that can be taught about family and community, you just have to really look at the complete picture and not chase the fairly tale. Good men focus on providing or setting up something to provide for the future. Alot of men that are seeing success are focused on living the "rap video" fantasy. So women keep in mind that when it comes to being persued "practice makes perfect", so if that dude is smooth and knows all the right things to say and do, its because he's been actively practicing. Usually the good dude stumbles over his words, doesn't know when to call or text, and shows your special because he doesn't approach women all the time. Show him the way to your heart. Don't be naive anymore. That's way too much for now. Thanks for the topic. I couldn't stop typing.

Parker Jones said...

I think people forgot what a relationship is. Things do not happen overnight. You need to let decide if someone is a friend or future mate.

PJ said...

Is this blog specifically about DMV Indiana ? It doesnt matter if you deal with a man or a woman at DMV.